Dysfunctional Survival Traits: Comparison, Vulnerability and Perfection

No one grows up in the perfect home. We’re all missing pieces that we have to find as adults. I’m here to tell you that it’s time to complete the puzzle.
Whether you grew up in an obviously dysfunctional home with active addiction and/or mental health issues or under the shadow of past traumas, your kid self did the best it could to handle it. Given the limited life experience of children, it’s no wonder the strategies seem a little dated in the light of day. But daytime is not when we’re most challenged.

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10 Signs Boundaries are a Problem

Boundary skills are a moving target because there’s no one right way to do it. There’s no perfect script to follow to get everyone to play along nicely. Boundaries are hard! They’re hard to recognize until crossed, hard to talk about, and especially hard to give someone consequences for crossing them. You will spend a lifetime learning about them and still mess up sometimes. That’s ok; you’re human.

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Narcissist’s People Matrix (with Free Download!)

A narcissist sees people as objects to move around the chess board of life. To make this easier, the narcissist classifies people into status (high to low) and usefulness (high to low). Generally, as a person, you don’t like being a chess piece. To the narcissist, its efficiency.

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